You’re busy. I get it.
The calendar is full before coffee hits your lips. Morning rush, work, evening cleanup, sleep, repeat. Life is a treadmill that never really stops.
So when you are running on empty, how do you actually show up for your kids?
I stopped looking for the “perfect” moment and started stealing time instead.
When Trent and Troy were small, I used the drive to school. Just twenty minutes in the car, we’d talk about things that actually mattered. It wasn’t an interview, just two humans talking. Beyond the car seats, our bond got cemented by dirt on our hands—bike rides, four-wheeling off-roading, camping in the cold. Small stuff. Big impact.
This exact dilemma is what Steve Farrar tackled.
Farrar passed away years ago, but his recorded message with Focus on the Family (alongside Jim Daly) still holds water. He founded Men’s Leadership Ministries, spoke at 600+ men’s conferences across North and South America, and wrote books. But he didn’t just talk leadership; he walked it.
His message to dads is simple.
Stop waiting for a sign. Start showing up.
He mixed humor with hard truths, pushing fathers to become the man their families need. The greatest gift isn’t the latest toy. It isn’t tuition.
It is you. Time. Uninterrupted attention.
Whether you are on the radio, listening via Apple Podcasts, or using their free app, the advice is the same: Be there.
Before we sign off, a quick note on support.
If you want to help Keep this mission going, join the “Friends of Focus on the Family.” It’s a monthly partnership program. If you sign up, I’m sending you a copy of Farrar’s book, Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family. It’s my way of saying thanks for spreading a little grace around. Plus, you get member perks.
Make a pledge here. Or call 1-800-232-6457.
We’ll talk soon.
